Unexpectd lie

Well, this is something that happened on March 3, 2011. I could not publish this at the time because I could have been in serious trouble with my company. But, I did write this on March 17, 2011 and scheduled this for a year later.

On March 3, 2011; I was scheduled to fly to US for the second leg of my assignment that started in July 2010. Since July 2010, there has been a lot of unrest within me and with my family over my travel. Of course, I had never been away from home for more than week, this was for about a year when it started. Now, it had come down to 5 months until July 2011 when my assignment ended.

However, I got ready with bags packed and everything. Dad and Preeti (my wife) accompanied me to the airport. I left my daughter home crying because she wanted to go with us to the airport. It was late in the night so no point bringing her along. She was 3 years back then and did not really understand that her Dad was going away for a longish period and she would only be able to talk on phone or a video chat.

I had left home in a state of flux and unrest, but this time it was more than what it was in July 2010. As I was driving to the Airport, everyone was silent and thinking something. I knew what I was thinking – “What can I do that this trip can be canceled?”.

As we were walking from the Parking I popped a question to Preeti – “Can we manage our household in case I do not go and get fired?” She was not sure. However, we continued to deliberate on this. We reached the Gate and then I asked the same question to Preeti and Dad. And next 20 minutes were hay-wire. Eventually the following happened:

We decided to cancel the trip and communicate on medical grounds to my boss. To safeguard my position, we spoke to Amit and Aparna who recommended that we go to a hospital and report the situation and get a medical certificate of the checkup. We started our trip back to the hospital and my dad called up Krishna and informed him about the same.

However, the events for the evening were not to end there. When we reached the hospital and I had my blood pressure measured (I have been recording a high BP for a week now); it was 160/110. And it was alarming. Eventually, the doctor suggested an ECG; which came to be normal. I was recommended some medicines and I came back home.

Since, then there has been a lot of thinking around should I go or not. The Blood pressure eventually normalized. I guess it was because of anxiety for last few weeks. These two weeks gave me time to think what to do and also to search for various jobs and see if there are opportunities for elsewhere to find.

I have never done this in my entire career and it took a lot of courage to do it; however it never went away and until now this comes back to haunt me – like I did something wrong.

I do not know, if what I did was wrong or right. It seemed right for my family. I am not sure, if it can be right for someone, if it started as being wrong.

P.S.: If you are wondering what happened after that, that is a story for another day.

Road Trip – Day 2

This trip was getting interesting all the time, given how it all started this was no surprise. After a good Day 1, I was not tired but slept very late around 1am. So, my start of the day plan was all messed up. Woke up late and when I met Bhua we were already late for Gurdwara and we had to hurry up.


It was about 20 minutes drive from Bhua’s place and as I pulled into the drive way, I was surprised to see that it did have the Gurudwara touch in the building architecture. A few pictures of Gurudwaras that I saw for Minnesota were like any other building. I know I attended the “Ardas” in many months. It was followed up with “prasad” and “langar” which was breakfast. The chai was great. I guess the feeling and being lucky of having “Guru ka langar” was so good.

Fair Oaks Dairy Farm

From Gurudwara, we moved over to the dairy farm. We decided to go with Bhua’s instinct but then mid-way followed the Google Mas Navigation and thay took us to another place. Finally, after going around in circles for about 30 minutes we found our way to the place. And we started off the tour.

We started off with a 4D presentation/movie about the farm and it was a very nice experience. It was kid stuff but made us laugh too. And it did tell us a lot about the farm. Then we went on the bus tour which nice. They showed us one of their farms and what all happened there. There were like 3000 cows on the farm (all mooings :)). We saw how they milked the cows and how well they are trained. It was a wonder to see cows move into place and then move out by themselves. I had never seen cows do trained things and this was a first one. They also had a place where they showed us how they rapidly cooled the milk from 101 deg to 36 deg. We could touch the pipes with milk flowing. They shared with some statistics and told us that every day they shipped almost 60000 gallons of mile from the facility. That is a lot of milk :). They had a maternity barn and when we arrived back from the tour a Cow had just given birth. We spent a few minutes there (in a way I am glad I didnt witness a birth; dont know why). Then we went over to there inhouse ice-cream and cheese shop. Tasted a few kinds of cheese and eat an ice-cream. All the pictures are available on my facebook album.

Michigan City Zoo

I have not been to a zoo in a long time, and never to one in US. So when I had some time on hands, I decided to go visit one nearby (Washington Park Zoo) in Michigan City. And it was once again a visit worth while. I reached the place after a drive for about 50 minutes from Bhua’s house and when I pulled in, I was surprised to see it was a huge park and one areas in the park was the zoo. There were once again so many people and many of them were out picnicking. There was a big beach nearby and a band was also playing. However, given the Zoo would close at 4pm and I reached here at 2.30, I headed straight for the zoo. As I entered, I started with Big Cats again. But this time, I was excited because I saw fascinating creatures and not in tall fences. So this meant I had a clear shot at them and could get some good close-ups using my 55-200mm lens. I took almost 175 picures only a few have been uploaded to a Facebook Album here.

Wrapping up

After spending about 2+ hours in the zoo, I drove back to Bhua’s house and retired for the day. On Day 1, I did call up other Bhua’s to see if I can meet them or not and now I was getting call-backs. Finally after much thinking and talking it was decided I would stay with Bhua for the night and go over to Ashi Bhua’s place next morning. Bhua also suggested to visit House on the Rock. It seemed nice, but as I went over to sleep I had no clue what I was in for my day back to Plymouth. The evening went well and I worked with Bhua on a couple of things – recording from tape and some additional tips and tricks on her Android phone. Finally, I went to my room but sleep was avoiding me this time and I slept only around 2.30am.

The next day had many things were in store for me, which I had not thought about. All of that in another post.